Mother’s Ceremony Attire -Tell Or Not to tell that is the question??

Has your future mother-in-law approached you about what you want her to wear to your wedding? What about your own mother? Do you have a step-mother or even your fiancé‘s mother and step-mother coming to your wedding? It’s hard enough to choose your own wedding dress, but to be stuck having to help up to four women at the same time, too?

Obviously, not every mother will ask, but they do usually want an idea of what color or style you have envisioned. It’s also important for each mother to coordinate. There will be pictures taken of them together and the last thing you want is for their dresses to clash and draw attention away from yourself and the groom, the whole reason they bought those fancy dresses.

It’s common knowledge that mother’s should all stay away from a white or ecru ensemble. These colors can make it look like the mother of the bride or groom is trying to rival the bride.

Do consider the colors. Often mother’s will wear similar colors that are featured in your floral arrangements or accents that your bridesmaid’s wear. For example, if your colors are sage green and rose petal pink, one mother could wear green and the other pink.

As for the style of the dress, it might make for good bonding time for you to accompany each mother and help her choose what to wear. You can also help her pick out her shoes and accessories.

There are no solid rules or etiquette on what mother’s of the bride and groom should wear during the wedding ceremony. Some mothers might prefer to pick out their own attire, just make sure to lay the ground rules first. If you want them to coordinate, tell them they must work together on colors. If you are more laid back and don’t mind what they wear, try throwing out some ideas for them to spark their imagination.

When it comes to accessories and shoes, it depends on the dress being worn. A simple dress can be spruced up with more elaborate jewelry or shoes. The opposite is true for more elaborate dresses. Simpler jewelry and shoes with a fancier dress can go a long way to pull off a nice look.

Whatever the mothers during your wedding choose to wear, try to remember the big picture – to get married. Don’t get bogged down with the tiny details. If you have expectations simply make them known and relax as everything falls into place.